Whenever I go into something with a half-hearted attitude, it rarely goes well and I’m not satisfied with the result.
If pick up my guitar to practice when I’m just not into it, I’ll rush through warm up and playing. I’m not present. I won’t slow down and work on what I need to to improve. I play sloppy and end up frustrated. My heart’s not in it. The negative loop from that makes me not want to play the next time around.
This can go for anything we do when our heart’s not in it. Even working out (trainers aren’t perfect!), there are days where I feel like I’m going through motions. My “workout” ends up being lame. My heart’s not in it.
What’s going on?
Sometimes, you’re just tired, or hungry. You might just need a break. Maybe you just need to get outside and walk for a bit. Sometimes we do have to push through the fog.
But not every time. Listen to your body. Tune in to what’s going on (do you need food, sleep, a break, etc.) and address it. Nothing’s wrong with you.
I want to address what to do when you’re just going through the motions because that’s just “what you do.” You’re bored, or people expect you to do it.
This can happen with exercise. Are you just exercising and going through the same routine because that’s what you do three days per week and you have for the last 10 years? That’s just what you do. So, you keep doing it.
But you’re heart’s not in it.
What’s the solution? Should you just stop doing these things because your heart’s no longer in them? Not at all!
In fact, the fix is easier than you might think, and I’m going to tell you right now:
Rekindle your WHY. WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS?
You need a reason that gets to the heart of the matter. This white-hot reason that fires you up to start going and to keep going.
Here are some great reasons that motivate WHY people exercise:
Do you want to be strong and pain-free? Functional? More athletic? Jacked? Toned? What?
Do you want to be able to get down on the floor with your grandkids?
Do you want to be able to run up that mountain with your children?
Do you want to be fit enough to coach the soccer team and live what you preach?
Do you want to feel proud of yourself and skyrocket your confidence?
If it’s hard to summon your “WHY,” here’s a simple exercise for you:
Sit down with some paper and a pen.
Think about something that you’ve been half-hearted about lately.
Why did you start doing that thing?
Do you care about that “why” still?
If not, what’s your new “why”? What’s your big, huge, driving “WHY”?
By doing this thing, what are you becoming? WHO are you becoming?
Is what you’ve been doing still working for you?
Do you need to shake it up?
What does that look like? How can you change the thing to make it align with your new “why”?
I’ve used this month to reflect on this question in many areas of my own life. Turns out, there are some areas that I’ve been going through motions and losing sight of why I started them at all. I think that’s easy to fall into, but the trick is to do something about it.
I’d love to hear from you if you’ve experienced this before or are experiencing this now, and what you’ve done, are doing, or are going to do to rekindle that excitement again.